The DUMPED!

Break-up Survival Guide

Maybe you knew it was coming. Maybe you didn’t. Valentine's Day is gone & so are the sweet memories you cherished till yesterday; Today they're but bitter-sweet, you’ve been dumped.

Giving up doesn't always mean you are weak; sometimes it means that you are strong enough to let go. ~Author Unknown

So, other than moping around in your pajamas, spending quality time with Ben & Jerry, what can you do? Well, clear away that mountain of soggy tissues, and I’ll tell you how to get through the worst of it, the first 30 days.

The best way to mend a broken heart is time and girlfriends. ~Gwyneth Paltrow

Three things: Take care of yourself. Give yourself time to mourn & Move forward.

In the arithmetic of love, one plus one equals everything, and two minus one equals nothing. ~Mignon McLaughlin, The Second Neurotic's Notebook, 1966

The first 48 hours.

The first 48 hours are the toughest. Give yourself at least one full weekend to cry your eyes out, eat junk food and lie around on your couch in a broken-heart coma watching sappy movies or a kung-fu marathon. Try to throw a few comedies into the mix if you can, laughter is good for you. If you want to be alone now, be alone. If you want to be with friends, by all means, invite them to console you. Whatever you do, don’t call your ex. Don’t e-mail your ex. Don’t see your ex. Turn your answering machine on and screen your calls. I’m not saying you should never talk to your ex again, but give yourself at least a month or so to build up your ego again. If you think you might be tempted, by all means, invite a friend over to run defense and keep you away from the phone. Next, force yourself to think of the relationship as over. I know that’s tough right now, but it truly is necessary. Grieve for what it was, and consider it dead and gone.

Relationships are like glass. Sometimes it's better to leave them broken than try to hurt yourself putting it back together. ~Author Unknown

The first week.

After your first 48 hours, it is important to get off the couch and take a shower. Not just for hygiene reasons, (but trust me, by this time you’ll really need it) but because it’s now time to start taking action. Take down all photos that include your ex. If you need to have a ceremonial snapshot torching, by all means, go ahead. Put all reminders of your ex (letters, gifts, photos, etc.) in a box and stuff it way in the back of your closet, or better yet, your garage - someplace you won’t see it on a regular basis. If you feel yourself starting to idealize your ex, and feel the desire to call him or her, sit down immediately and make a list of all the things about your ex that really annoyed you - the more humorous, the better. Think hard, I know there’s something…

-- The way he gave the exact same 22-minute response to every single person who asked how his job was going for three solid years.

-- The psycho-squirrel noises she made when she laughed.

-- The cheap, ugly, green, plastic phone he gave you for Christmas.

-- The way she tried to hold in her sneezes, producing that imploding, snorty noise instead…

Maybe part of loving is learning to let go. ~From the television show The Wonder Years

Whatever you do, don’t call your ex. Start returning to your normal life. Take an extra 20 minutes with your appearance this week. Sure, you may not feel like getting dressed at all, but trust me, if you look good, you’ll feel even better. Wear something that makes you feel stunning or confident. Nothing smoothes the ragged edges of a recent break-up like a few well-timed compliments. If your weekend on the couch still shows in your face, put some tea bags on your eyelids.

Sometimes I wish I were a little kid again, skinned knees are easier to fix than broken hearts. ~Author Unknown

Make plans with friends for every Friday and Saturday night for the next month, and stick to them. Get out and go dancing. It may be the last thing you feel like doing, but you’ll find it’s a fantastic release. The music and physical activity will make you feel tons better. Speaking of which, exercise four times this week. Yeah, I know you won’t feel like it, but do it anyway. You need those happy endorphins that exercise brings. Do a little bonding with your pals. Go to a basketball game, or even bowling. Just get out of the house. One last thing for this week, schedule a massage. You need it!

What is the opposite of two? A lonely me, a lonely you. ~Richard Wilbur

The second week.

Whatever you do, don’t call your ex. Make a detailed list of all your good qualities. Remember, you’re a unique, wonderful, person, and someone (probably several someones) will fall madly in love with you, and you with them. Keep your plans with friends every weekend, and by all means, do something physical, or humorous, like going to a comedy club. Work out (three times this week, and for the rest of the break-up survival period), go rock climbing, or dance like the Backstreet Boys in your living room (nobody will see you.) Get your heart rate going. Aside from making your body look good, you’ll boost your mood as well. This week is all about pampering yourself. Get a pedicure, or sit in the sauna. You’ve been through a lot, and you deserve it. Spend some of your newfound time (and probably extra cash, too) on something just for you. Guys, you may be feeling the need for some type of electronic device you’ve been putting off. Now is the time. Girls, all I can say is, SHOE SHOPPING! Treat yourself to a little something nice this week, and every week for the rest of the month.

Turn your wounds into wisdom. ~Oprah Winfrey

The last two weeks.

Whatever you do, don’t call your ex. You’re halfway through the black period, and the worst is over. This is when you’ll start easing back into your pre-girl/pre-guy routine. Be a little selfish with your time, and do exactly what you want to do. You should be focusing on taking care of yourself right now. Now is also the time to start making long-range plans. Make two plans: One plan for a vacation (even if it’s three years away,) and one plan for your life. You have a clean slate, what do you want to do? Go back to school? Become a rock star? Learn how to make crawfish traps? No one is holding you back now. Write down your goals, and the steps you’ll need to take to reach them.

Holy Moly! Before you know it, the entire month has gone by. You’re through the thick of it now, and on the road to recovery. Sure, you’ll hit some bumps along the way, but you’ll live through this. You’ve made it this far, and you’ll be a stronger, wiser person because of it. Someday, you’ll meet someone who will love and appreciate you for the amazing person you are. And this break-up, which is so awful now, will just be one forgotten U- turn on your path to true love.

Love's in the air, Love's everywhere; Happy Valentines Day & Salaam-E-Ishq

Love Quotes you may use to impress your Romeo/Juliet




"No guy is worth your tears, and the one that is, won't make you cry."
— unknown

"We love the things we love for what they are."
— Robert Frost

"The only thing worse than a boy who hates you: a boy that loves you."
— Markus Zusack

"The voice of Love seemed to call me, but it was a wrong number."
— P.G. Wodehouse

"Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get - only with what you are expecting to give - which is everything"
— Katharine Hepburn

"Do I love you because you're beautiful, or are you beautiful because I love you?"
— Rodgers & Hammerstein-Cinderella

"I believe that love is better than hate. And that there is more nobility in building a chicken coop than in destroying a cathedral."
— Betty Greene

"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves."
— Corinthians 13:4-7

"If you love something so much let it go. If it comes back it was meant to be; if it doesn't it never was"
— Albert Schweitzer

"It is not the magnitude of our actions but the amount of love that is put into them that matters"
— Mother Teresa of Calcutta

"Love doesn't make the world go round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile."
— Franklin P. Jones

"Have you ever been in love? Horrible isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens up your heart and it means that someone can get inside you and mess you up."
— Neil Gaiman

"You know you are in love when you see the world in her eyes,and her eyes everywhere in the world."
— David Levesque

"Talking about love is like dancing about architecture"
— From the movie "Playing by Heart" (1998)



............And some more beautiful thoughts

• Don't find love, let love find you. That's why it's called falling in love because you don't force yourself to fall, you just fall. Once you accept someone for who and what they really are, they will surprise you by being better than you ever expected. LOVE is loving/accepting a person with all his/her strengths and weaknesses.
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• Lucky is the man who is the first love of a woman but luckier is the woman who
  is the last love of a man. When two friends fall in love they learn they are meant for each other. When they fall out of love they realize they want to keep each other forever.
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• Find time to realize that there is one person who means so much to you, for you might wake up one morning losing that person who you regret having thought meant nothing to you.
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• Love is seeing yourself through someone's eyes and finding yourself in somebody's heart. Once you have loved, you will always love. For what's in your mind may change but what's in your heart will remain forever.
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• Some thoughts are better left unsaid, some feelings are better left kept to yourself, but love has it's way of expressing itself despite the silence.
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• The happier the memory, the deeper it hurts.

A Special guide for the "Movie-Lover" Lovers out there on St. Valentine's Day that you'd love watching cuddled to your mate

• Top 10 Romantic Movies of all time
  

• #10. Shrek (2001)

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• What’s more romantic than a quest to save a princess from a fire-breathing dragon? Okay, maybe Shrek isn’t your classic knight in shining armor, but by the end of the flick he proves that looks aren’t everything, and that even a big green ogre can get the girl. Plus, this movie is hilarious, and a good sense of humor goes a long way in the love department.
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• #9. Save the Last Dance (2001)

  Dancing is one of the most romantic things you can do, which is why two movies about dancing make this list. A lot of movies have tried to duplicate this ‘dancing-girl-meets-boy from the wrong side of the tracks’ theme and have failed miserably. The key to this film’s is the electric chemistry between Julia Stiles and Sean Patrick Thomas. Just like in real love, sparks are something you just can’t fake.
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• #8. Stardust (2007)

  This magical tale of a fallen star, flying pirates, and frightening witches, is really just a romantic story about love. Tristan thinks he loves Victoria so in a romantic gesture he promises her the stars. It turns out that the star is actually cutie Clair Danes, and she eventually teaches our misguided hero about the power of true love.
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• #7. The Princess Bride (1987)

  The Princess Bride follows the traditional fairy tale plot with a kidnapped princess, an evil prince and a knight in shining armor. There's swashbuckling adventure, lots of humor and of course, romance. The sets are magical and will keep you mesmerized throughout the flick. It's the perfect feel-good fantasy to watch this Valentine's Day.
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• #6. Ghost (1990)

• Another classic love story, this flick stars Demi Moore - Ashton Kutcher’s wife - and '90s heart throb Patrick Swayze. Ghost is all about the power of love to conquer all, even death. The scene where Demi spins a clay pot is ultra romantic, and the best thing about this flick is that it’s just scary enough so that whoever you’re watching with might just squeeze you a little tighter.
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• #5. Titanic (1997)

  What better movie to watch when you're in a sappy mood, than the classic love story of Jack and Rose? Again, it's a story where a rich girl falls head-over-heels for a lower-class boy. Together they experience the terror of the Titanic sinking, which only seems to make them love each other even more. This is the ultimate tear-jerker, but it's totally worth it! Add to it the soul-moving music & I'd rate it the best Romantic Film on a personal note.
  
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• #4. Lady and the Tramp (1955)

  

• Some of the most romantic stories are about couples
  
• from different worlds who fall madly in love. This is totally true in this classic Disney flick, except the lovers in this case are dogs. Even though Lady is an uptown Cocker Spaniel, and Tramp is a downtown Mutt the pups meet at the end of a piece of spaghetti is one, this pair will do anything to be together. The scene where of the most romantic film moments of all time.

• #3. Dirty Dancing (1988)

  Patrick Swayze is on this list for a second time with this iconic film, also starring Jennifer Grey as Baby. It has a lot of romantic elements we’ve seen in the other films on this list including a couple from opposite sides of the tracks, passionate dancing, and a love that conquers all. Dirty Dancing is one of those classic love stories which can be watched over and over again, and as a bonus, the soundtrack is ridiculously romantic too!
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• #2. Romeo and Juliet (1996)

• This classic love story has been around for a long, long time, but this modernized version is spectacular. Leonardo DiCaprio and Clare Danes play Romeo and Juliet, the couple destined to be together forever. Even though you know the outcome of the tale, you'll be glued to the screen. There's such great chemistry between Leo and Clare that you'll think you're watching the real star-crossed lovers meeting for the first time.
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• #1. The Notebook (2004)

• Ryan Gosling and Rachel McAdams star in this tear-jerker about first love. Allie and Noah meet at a carnival and fall madly in love. But, Allie's rich family doesn't approve of poor Noah and forces them apart. The Notebook is definitely a flick that you have to watch with a box of Kleenex at your side.
  
  

& Finally, I'd recommend this cute love-able story


So That's for now guys cya again, hope everyone had a Love-able Valentine's Day let the singles out there not worry for the vacuum in your life, hoping to see you together with someone by the next V-Day; and yeah, I'll do my part for ya blokes, may be I can consider blogging a thing or two about flirting tips & other crap( as if they helped me in the first instance,). Chalo then bbye.

"If you don't know jewelry, know your jeweler."

-A Message from Warren E. Buffett
Chairman, Berkshire Hathaway Inc.


What You Should Know About the Jewelry Business
You don't need to understand the economics of a generating plant in order to intelligently buy electricity. If your neighbor is an expert on that subject and you are a neophyte, your electric rates will be identical.

But jewelry purchases are different. What you pay for an item vs. what your neighbor pays for a comparable item can be, and often is, widely different. Understanding the economics of the business will tell you why.

To begin with, all jewelers turn their inventory very slowly, and that ties up a lot of capital. A once-a-year turn is par for the course. The reason is simple: People buy jewelry infrequently, and when they do, they are making both a major and very individual purchase. Therefore, they want to view a wide selection of pieces before zeroing in on a single item.

Given that their turnover is low, a jeweler must obtain a relatively wide profit margin on sales in order to achieve even a mediocre return on their investment. In this respect, the jewelry business is just the opposite of the grocery business, in which rapid turnover of inventory allows good returns on investment though profit margins are low.

In order to establish a selling price for their merchandise, a jeweler must add to the price they pay for that merchandise, both their operating costs and desired profit margin. Operating costs seldom run less than 40% of sales and often exceed that level. This fact requires most jewelers to price their merchandise at double its cost to them or even more. The math is simple: Jewelers charge $1 for merchandise that has cost them 50 cents. Then, from their gross profit of 50 cents they typically pay 40 cents for operating costs, which leaves 10 cents of pre-tax earnings for every $1 of sales. Taking into account the massive investment in inventory, the 10-cent profit is adequate but far from exciting.

At Borsheim's the equation is far different from what I have just described. Because of our single location and the huge volume we generate, our operating expense ratio is usually around 20% of sales. As a percentage of sales, our rent costs alone are fully five points below those of our typical competitor. Therefore, we can, and do, price our goods far below the prices charged by other jewelers. In fact, if they priced to match us, they would operate at very substantial losses. Moreover, in a virtuous circle, our low prices generate ever increasing sales, further driving down our expense ratio, which allows us to reduce prices still more.

How much difference does our cost advantage make? It varies by competitor but, by my calculation, what costs you $1,000 at Borsheim's will, on average, cost you about $1,350 elsewhere. This is called the “Borsheim’s Price”. There are very few instances where we are unable to offer you those great savings due to restrictions, but you will always know upfront if an item is non-discountable.

Of course, price means nothing unless you are sure of the quality of what you are getting. When products are branded, such as watches and chinaware are, comparisons are simple. But jewelry is usually a "blind" item - and that puts virtually all purchasers at the mercy of the seller.

I can remember well how helpless I used to feel in a Fifth Avenue or Rodeo Drive jewelry store, where the only thing I knew for sure was that the operator had extraordinarily high overhead - and that they had to cover it in their sales price. I was also wary of the "upstairs" solo operator who operated on consignment merchandise, since that would have cost them more than merchandise bought outright, and would necessarily have inflated their retail price. And, finally, I always worried about the quality of what I was getting I couldn't tell the difference between an emerald or a diamond worth $10,000 and one whose value was $100,000. (I still can't.)

My sense of helplessness led me to an obvious conclusion: "If you don't know jewelry, know your jeweler." For that reason, I made all of my jewelry purchases at Borsheim's for many years before Berkshire Hathaway bought the company. I didn't know stones, but I did know Ike Friedman, the retailing genius who had built the business from nothing into one of the nation’s largest independent jewelry stores. When I purchased Ike's business, I did it without an audit but with full confidence that I was getting value received. And that's just what I got - precisely as I had when I purchased a single piece of jewelry from him.



At Borsheim's the service will be exemplary, the price will be exceptional and the merchandise will always be what you are told that it is. You have my word.


Warren E. Buffett